Fight your own battle!

Off late I have been escaping from troublesome situations , people and in general anything at all just to keep my mind calm and peaceful. It feels like I'm recovering from an ailment.

Life at times, seems better when you discuss less on your problems and do the problem solving yourself. Because when you discuss your itch you sure are gonna get more and more suggestions and opinions from every tom dick and harry. Our mind always tends to get influenced by others opinions.
I feel at times that deciding on your plans for life is the best way to handle problems en route.  And when you are out of the trouble in your own ways, you come out to be a stronger person and better at making decisions.
Facing quite some hurdles in professional life I too have made my own mistakes, made some weird choices and now today I feel much better for the journey I have set for myself and the plan that is in place. Whenever I had to discuss these professional hurdles (which are mostly in abundance for women) with anyone, for that matter family, friends and sometimes anyone at all, I have had tons and tons of suggestions pouring in.
Though all of them might be good but I ended up confused. Some said I'm very emotional and some said I need to be mentally strong like never before to handle tough people. I started imagining that things might be wrong at my end. Finally I took my own decisions, set my own rules and made life easier for myself. Even if I fail with my strategy I will not feel bad because I'm much stronger and a better person now to handle the so called professional losers.

Though it has been nice to handle bad situations at work, in a long run, I'm worried I cant do it more.
Not everyone comes to office to just work. Some people come to ensure they make use of their power and authority, some to play politics, some to do favoritism  some to trouble the co workers, some to just get money and some to take time off from home.

I hear a lot about office politics and troubles faced from my female friends.
Is this something against women or what is it. I'm seriously curious to know more about the reason behind such behavior at workplace. The motive behind the problem creators.

Being professional probably includes a lot of politics which I'm unaware of !!

I wish!!

I'm just feeling elated today.. probably because I'm tired of thinking about work, about future and in general about life. I have probably realized that I should live one day at a time and this doesnt ensure I will stop fretting about things. This is just momentary and this moment I'm happy. Being happy is a state of mind and I'm thinking on below things which is making my heart feel light.

Happy thinking that there would be a day when I will not have to worry about working just because I need to earn some bucks, a day which I will plan on my own based on my moods, a day where I plan to just have fun, probably which includes meeting old friends and catching up on some old times spent together, going on a trip with them where we just laugh and have fun and not bother baout husbands back home or kids. A day where I will just get to be with my nieces Dee and Dhri.. Take them out on a long drive playing some lovely music of their choice. Buy them everything that they want.. literally everything they want and pamper them with all the food they like be it chocolates, ice cream or burger. A day which I can claim the best is the one where I can go on a trip with my mum. Probably thats not one day but a week, without bothering about who cooks for my dad back home. I would love if this day comes true as I find my mum to be my best company ever. A day  where I'm home with my dad, just me and him and make all good food for him everything that he wishes to have and play a round of carrom with him.
A day I just go to some huge library and read books all day till I get tired of it. A day I can go shopping all alone without having to bother on whats my bank balance and ofcourse not having my cell phone with me. A day where is spend in a creche playing with kids and taking care of them. A day where I'm living on top of a snow capped mountain, settled there and running a small restaurant along with my lover boy and we are all aloof, staying by ourself and being contended with life. A day where I'm doing some service to the society, probably teaching poor kids or doing some kind of service to an orphanage or an old age home. A day where I'm happily contributing some time, money and effort to make the place I'm living in a better one for myself and for the others. A day where I'm a successful business woman on a small scale, may be running a fashion boutique or a small restaurant or a kindergarden.


Wow.. Many thoughts crossing by, but I want to ink the ones which are so fresh on mind, so that I read it sometime later in life and feel happy about my own thinking.

But coming back to reality, realizing that I'm not loving what I'm doing right now and that I need to put hell lot of effort  to get what I want and to get rid of all the ugly thoughts and people out of my life, I'm just feeling that LIFE actually is not bed of roses!! Its only the Love I get from my sweet husband and my family and friends that keeps me competant in this race.

I wish I can make things better for myself and lead the life that I dream of!!
I WISH !!

love maardhad aur action!

There are 2 lives for those who go out and work. One at home and one at office. I call it a life coz we spend atleast 8-9 hrs of our daily time at office and we dont even get to sleep there.

This place is no better than a home. There is always love mardhad and action filled at workplace.
Love from employees to manager and from manager to the ones they actually love. In professional terms its called Utilizing the good resources but I call it pure favoritism. Given some encouragement and support everyone can perform well in a company. The less fortunate crowd who are not the favs or they dont want to be favourites, are always cornered, battered, troubled and ensured that their life is screwed for 8-9 hrs. The amount of work they do doesnt matter, the patience they show doesnt matter and their health.. oops that too doesnt matter

Mardhad I mean maar-peet. There is always a fight between 2 people just like at home. This in professional terms we call it Conflict management.
At home we manage these fights because of love and at workplace we manage it to survive, and because of this hatred we have to fight to save our own ass. You had a tussle with a team member (including a manager), it simply means your hike or promotion is affected. and its because of this extra piece of bone in a year called bonus/hike, we all show up a different face at work, a happy and a patient one, even when things back home is literally fucked.

All of us are wanting to be independent (women in particular), earn a good living, make our lives better and our families life better by earning those extra bucks. Utilize our education by putting into use our overall learning. But in return we are tested for our patience, tried to humiliate at many instances and what not. Basically we need to carry an extra ton of patience while going to workplace.

Action is applicable both at work and at home. I have a list of action items stuck on my fridge, cupboard mirror and where not. Thankfully I dont stick few on my body. The same applies in office where we have a list of items to do, mostly daily. The first action for the day is to hurridly reach office, blame the traffic of any city for being late at work. Then a list of items to be completed ASAP. For god sake who invented this abbreviation ASAP. Your asap can be my 1 year. ufff. you always have to be in action to prove you are better than the other. If you are late to work you are questioned but if you sit late at work no one questions. A call at the middle of the night to attend to a US counterpart is ofcourse a compulsary one, because they need our help. The issue for which you raised a bug doesnt get any update for 10 days.. ohh cmon the US team is busy.
Sometimes it feels its better to do a job which pays 5-6k and gives less tension.

On top of all these, people assume that corporate pays the best and each of us earn 1 lakh per month sitting in an ac room. God knows what they do in front of a computer all day. They get easy money.
Its aptly said that in life we alwyas try to impress the wrong people, try to prove our worth and end of it all, spoil our peace and our health. Time to realize that we should give our best of everything to family and not work.
I dont know what I wrote, was it hillarious, was it an assumption, was it brutal truth, or was it just an opinion. Whatever it is, though not a very personal one  I feel better writing this. I'm sure most of it is true.

Baby's day out !

This day has been awesome coz when I woke up I had my Ditha (Dhriti) sleeping by my side, yes for the first time she slept with us and it was such a bliss. We could hardly sleep all night coz both of us were worried what if she wakes up, what if she cries and for reasons unknown :)

When she opened her eyes in the morning she gave a big smile, a smile which meant, wow Upa I was sleeping with u happily kinds, She looked on the other side for her Uncle and when she dint find, with her sweet morning voice she asked me .. Upa.. Pankaju elli (where is pankaj), She was thrilled to see him then and not once she asked about her mom. I asked her if she wants Amma, do you wan to go downstairs to see Amma, she had a straight Answer "No" :) It made me smile and I hugged her tight.
She was very thrilled to sleep with her Upa and Uncle and wanted to just stick to us.

This is how she slept when she got tired of the movie!

We then went out for a movie that day. Ice age (3d). We were worried how this 2 yr old little gal manage it. Trust me we were shocked at her happiness of seeing her first movie. She tried wearing the glasses but couldn't see through those huge glasses. She sat watched it. Clapped seeing the elephant, was guessing what is what, smiling and shying donno for what reason. Not one disturbance from her and she was so happily watching. She fell asleep on her seat when she actually got tired or bored of the movie, but it was such a nice feeling to sit with her and watch the movie, with her sister, amma, uncle and Upa beside :)

We then had food in the mall and when we asked her what next she said lets go tata.. :):) She dint want to go back home as she was enjoying her day out after a long time


On the whole it has been an awesome and memorable experience to watch a movie with my tiny gal Ditha

You made a mistake not Me!! Does Life become easy when I say so??

For normal people, its easy to cry for what they are not getting, crib about the people around and the situations, complain about people being rude or selfish, talk big about how great they are and how selfless and perfect they are :)
This is genuinely neat as most of us would fall under this category. The gaudy show off of oneself. If only we could learn from the surroundings and people we realize how precious LIFE on earth is and we would all make it a better place to live in.
If most of us aren't like what I have tried describing above then all the self realization and Sri Sri Sri Ravishankar schools for reinventing oneself would stop making business. Everyone would be spiritual and no one would face problems in this so called short LIFE.

But how often we meet people, who actaully are by nature good enough to handle this bumpy ride of life? Who carry a SMILE whatever the situation may be? Probably very few. because it is not easy to mend our thoughts and actions. But some do it willingly and consciously so they lead a peaceful LIFE here on earth. And i totally dont buy the idea that there is some LIFE after LIFE :)

I live with a Man who has so many good qualities (and also bad) and I love to be positive about what I look at. I get to learn lots from him daily. The patience he has always, the calmness he potrays, the attitude he has towards life, the happy guy he is come what may, the tough situations he handles, the never blame others attitude. The daring and caring guy he is.Live and let live policies. Wow.. I can go on and on..

Dont mind that i'm praising my love.. I love him beacause of the Character that he is. Because when he came into my life I dint see his family background or his richness, his degree or the money he draws. I love him coz of the MAN he is, not because he fit into all the marriage criteria. I knew all the plus and the minus of him and embraced both with the same love.

Just not to divert , my concern here is our capacity to get influenced by goodness of someone, ignoring the negetivities which doesnt matter to us :):) and agreeing to disagree is a great quality which we should imbibe in our lives and realize that the wrong we point out in others can be a quality in us too!