Keep it Simple!!

Feels awesome about,
The place I live in, the people I'm surrounded by, the work I do, the money I earn, the health I have and the love from family and friends, the 3 square meals and the HOME I have, the beautiful smile of a child, the chirping of birds, the early morning prayers from far away,
the exercises I do, the books I read and the learning from them, the drive I take, the blogs i write, the listening to culturally and traditionally rigid people, the handling of I'm the best kinda people, the ice cream I cherish once a while, the calls with mum, the lovely chat with with nieces, the sunset from my balcony, the gifts I receive often, the cooking I do and the care I show/get, the small fights,the long nights watching movies, the trips I make, the photos I flip through often, the ISD calls I make, the love stories of some friends and shunning the irritating people....


This is the way I love life and this is the way I forget pains and negatives, if any!

Life is simple because I like to keep it simple!

Lesson(s) to learn!

I went out for lunch today away from work. I was walking towards a place where I had to meet him and I was in my own thoughts, lost in my own world thinking of probably some issues or problems.

In front of me was a small pharmacy from where I sometimes buy medicines and toffees and it is right beside my office.

One little girl may be around 6-7 yrs holding her tiny, weak and unhealthy little sister who was around 2 yrs was begging. The older one was wearing a full dress but the tiny kid looked real poor, not enough clothes, half naked and begging or rather learning how to beg from her elder sister.
One man was kind enough to place a coin in the older ones hand right in front of the pharmacy. She smiled and progressed towards the shop and I thought may be she will beg from the shop owner or buy a toffee out of it. But she put that 1 re coin into the weighing machine and put her little sister on board to see how much she weighed. Both laughed their heart out and stepped out of that and started their job again.

I was shell shocked and my eyes were wet.

In just these 30 secs of my observation I got to learn lots. I dont know what but I will surely learn something out of this today. I'm sure all of us have something to learn from these children.
Simple lessons of life taught in the simplest ways!!

Fight your own battle!

Off late I have been escaping from troublesome situations , people and in general anything at all just to keep my mind calm and peaceful. It feels like I'm recovering from an ailment.

Life at times, seems better when you discuss less on your problems and do the problem solving yourself. Because when you discuss your itch you sure are gonna get more and more suggestions and opinions from every tom dick and harry. Our mind always tends to get influenced by others opinions.
I feel at times that deciding on your plans for life is the best way to handle problems en route.  And when you are out of the trouble in your own ways, you come out to be a stronger person and better at making decisions.
Facing quite some hurdles in professional life I too have made my own mistakes, made some weird choices and now today I feel much better for the journey I have set for myself and the plan that is in place. Whenever I had to discuss these professional hurdles (which are mostly in abundance for women) with anyone, for that matter family, friends and sometimes anyone at all, I have had tons and tons of suggestions pouring in.
Though all of them might be good but I ended up confused. Some said I'm very emotional and some said I need to be mentally strong like never before to handle tough people. I started imagining that things might be wrong at my end. Finally I took my own decisions, set my own rules and made life easier for myself. Even if I fail with my strategy I will not feel bad because I'm much stronger and a better person now to handle the so called professional losers.

Though it has been nice to handle bad situations at work, in a long run, I'm worried I cant do it more.
Not everyone comes to office to just work. Some people come to ensure they make use of their power and authority, some to play politics, some to do favoritism  some to trouble the co workers, some to just get money and some to take time off from home.

I hear a lot about office politics and troubles faced from my female friends.
Is this something against women or what is it. I'm seriously curious to know more about the reason behind such behavior at workplace. The motive behind the problem creators.

Being professional probably includes a lot of politics which I'm unaware of !!

I wish!!

I'm just feeling elated today.. probably because I'm tired of thinking about work, about future and in general about life. I have probably realized that I should live one day at a time and this doesnt ensure I will stop fretting about things. This is just momentary and this moment I'm happy. Being happy is a state of mind and I'm thinking on below things which is making my heart feel light.

Happy thinking that there would be a day when I will not have to worry about working just because I need to earn some bucks, a day which I will plan on my own based on my moods, a day where I plan to just have fun, probably which includes meeting old friends and catching up on some old times spent together, going on a trip with them where we just laugh and have fun and not bother baout husbands back home or kids. A day where I will just get to be with my nieces Dee and Dhri.. Take them out on a long drive playing some lovely music of their choice. Buy them everything that they want.. literally everything they want and pamper them with all the food they like be it chocolates, ice cream or burger. A day which I can claim the best is the one where I can go on a trip with my mum. Probably thats not one day but a week, without bothering about who cooks for my dad back home. I would love if this day comes true as I find my mum to be my best company ever. A day  where I'm home with my dad, just me and him and make all good food for him everything that he wishes to have and play a round of carrom with him.
A day I just go to some huge library and read books all day till I get tired of it. A day I can go shopping all alone without having to bother on whats my bank balance and ofcourse not having my cell phone with me. A day where is spend in a creche playing with kids and taking care of them. A day where I'm living on top of a snow capped mountain, settled there and running a small restaurant along with my lover boy and we are all aloof, staying by ourself and being contended with life. A day where I'm doing some service to the society, probably teaching poor kids or doing some kind of service to an orphanage or an old age home. A day where I'm happily contributing some time, money and effort to make the place I'm living in a better one for myself and for the others. A day where I'm a successful business woman on a small scale, may be running a fashion boutique or a small restaurant or a kindergarden.


Wow.. Many thoughts crossing by, but I want to ink the ones which are so fresh on mind, so that I read it sometime later in life and feel happy about my own thinking.

But coming back to reality, realizing that I'm not loving what I'm doing right now and that I need to put hell lot of effort  to get what I want and to get rid of all the ugly thoughts and people out of my life, I'm just feeling that LIFE actually is not bed of roses!! Its only the Love I get from my sweet husband and my family and friends that keeps me competant in this race.

I wish I can make things better for myself and lead the life that I dream of!!
I WISH !!

love maardhad aur action!

There are 2 lives for those who go out and work. One at home and one at office. I call it a life coz we spend atleast 8-9 hrs of our daily time at office and we dont even get to sleep there.

This place is no better than a home. There is always love mardhad and action filled at workplace.
Love from employees to manager and from manager to the ones they actually love. In professional terms its called Utilizing the good resources but I call it pure favoritism. Given some encouragement and support everyone can perform well in a company. The less fortunate crowd who are not the favs or they dont want to be favourites, are always cornered, battered, troubled and ensured that their life is screwed for 8-9 hrs. The amount of work they do doesnt matter, the patience they show doesnt matter and their health.. oops that too doesnt matter

Mardhad I mean maar-peet. There is always a fight between 2 people just like at home. This in professional terms we call it Conflict management.
At home we manage these fights because of love and at workplace we manage it to survive, and because of this hatred we have to fight to save our own ass. You had a tussle with a team member (including a manager), it simply means your hike or promotion is affected. and its because of this extra piece of bone in a year called bonus/hike, we all show up a different face at work, a happy and a patient one, even when things back home is literally fucked.

All of us are wanting to be independent (women in particular), earn a good living, make our lives better and our families life better by earning those extra bucks. Utilize our education by putting into use our overall learning. But in return we are tested for our patience, tried to humiliate at many instances and what not. Basically we need to carry an extra ton of patience while going to workplace.

Action is applicable both at work and at home. I have a list of action items stuck on my fridge, cupboard mirror and where not. Thankfully I dont stick few on my body. The same applies in office where we have a list of items to do, mostly daily. The first action for the day is to hurridly reach office, blame the traffic of any city for being late at work. Then a list of items to be completed ASAP. For god sake who invented this abbreviation ASAP. Your asap can be my 1 year. ufff. you always have to be in action to prove you are better than the other. If you are late to work you are questioned but if you sit late at work no one questions. A call at the middle of the night to attend to a US counterpart is ofcourse a compulsary one, because they need our help. The issue for which you raised a bug doesnt get any update for 10 days.. ohh cmon the US team is busy.
Sometimes it feels its better to do a job which pays 5-6k and gives less tension.

On top of all these, people assume that corporate pays the best and each of us earn 1 lakh per month sitting in an ac room. God knows what they do in front of a computer all day. They get easy money.
Its aptly said that in life we alwyas try to impress the wrong people, try to prove our worth and end of it all, spoil our peace and our health. Time to realize that we should give our best of everything to family and not work.
I dont know what I wrote, was it hillarious, was it an assumption, was it brutal truth, or was it just an opinion. Whatever it is, though not a very personal one  I feel better writing this. I'm sure most of it is true.

Baby's day out !

This day has been awesome coz when I woke up I had my Ditha (Dhriti) sleeping by my side, yes for the first time she slept with us and it was such a bliss. We could hardly sleep all night coz both of us were worried what if she wakes up, what if she cries and for reasons unknown :)

When she opened her eyes in the morning she gave a big smile, a smile which meant, wow Upa I was sleeping with u happily kinds, She looked on the other side for her Uncle and when she dint find, with her sweet morning voice she asked me .. Upa.. Pankaju elli (where is pankaj), She was thrilled to see him then and not once she asked about her mom. I asked her if she wants Amma, do you wan to go downstairs to see Amma, she had a straight Answer "No" :) It made me smile and I hugged her tight.
She was very thrilled to sleep with her Upa and Uncle and wanted to just stick to us.

This is how she slept when she got tired of the movie!

We then went out for a movie that day. Ice age (3d). We were worried how this 2 yr old little gal manage it. Trust me we were shocked at her happiness of seeing her first movie. She tried wearing the glasses but couldn't see through those huge glasses. She sat watched it. Clapped seeing the elephant, was guessing what is what, smiling and shying donno for what reason. Not one disturbance from her and she was so happily watching. She fell asleep on her seat when she actually got tired or bored of the movie, but it was such a nice feeling to sit with her and watch the movie, with her sister, amma, uncle and Upa beside :)

We then had food in the mall and when we asked her what next she said lets go tata.. :):) She dint want to go back home as she was enjoying her day out after a long time


On the whole it has been an awesome and memorable experience to watch a movie with my tiny gal Ditha

You made a mistake not Me!! Does Life become easy when I say so??

For normal people, its easy to cry for what they are not getting, crib about the people around and the situations, complain about people being rude or selfish, talk big about how great they are and how selfless and perfect they are :)
This is genuinely neat as most of us would fall under this category. The gaudy show off of oneself. If only we could learn from the surroundings and people we realize how precious LIFE on earth is and we would all make it a better place to live in.
If most of us aren't like what I have tried describing above then all the self realization and Sri Sri Sri Ravishankar schools for reinventing oneself would stop making business. Everyone would be spiritual and no one would face problems in this so called short LIFE.

But how often we meet people, who actaully are by nature good enough to handle this bumpy ride of life? Who carry a SMILE whatever the situation may be? Probably very few. because it is not easy to mend our thoughts and actions. But some do it willingly and consciously so they lead a peaceful LIFE here on earth. And i totally dont buy the idea that there is some LIFE after LIFE :)

I live with a Man who has so many good qualities (and also bad) and I love to be positive about what I look at. I get to learn lots from him daily. The patience he has always, the calmness he potrays, the attitude he has towards life, the happy guy he is come what may, the tough situations he handles, the never blame others attitude. The daring and caring guy he is.Live and let live policies. Wow.. I can go on and on..

Dont mind that i'm praising my love.. I love him beacause of the Character that he is. Because when he came into my life I dint see his family background or his richness, his degree or the money he draws. I love him coz of the MAN he is, not because he fit into all the marriage criteria. I knew all the plus and the minus of him and embraced both with the same love.

Just not to divert , my concern here is our capacity to get influenced by goodness of someone, ignoring the negetivities which doesnt matter to us :):) and agreeing to disagree is a great quality which we should imbibe in our lives and realize that the wrong we point out in others can be a quality in us too!

My first 3 yrs of a beautiful journey called marriage!

3 cheers to this beautiful Life as we complete 3 years of this beautiful marriage on the 18th of this month. Thanks a ton for making it such a wonderful journey till now and 

hope we continue to be better than ever. Life is good coz of just one person and thats my best half. The only one who can bring a smile on my face or a tear in my eyes. 

Time flew in a jiffy. Around 20 trips together, hundreds of movies, countless partying at home and endless laughter and fun!At times I have cried and most times I have smiled.

This Continues for God knows how many yrs.. Together we have been just happy through thick and thin.. Want atleast another 100 yrs together :)

As I have always felt and said, no one can stop us from being happy and we continue to be so..

Life is just perfectly beautiful when we walk hand in hand.
Happy Anniversary my Boy and thanks a ton for being the lovely you! You are The swine ooops wine who gets better with time! I have zillion reassons to love you or as it is said
there is never a reason to love someone.. I just love u beyond limits.
You are my LIFE.

A small note on this occassion:

Within you I lose myself
Without you I find myself
Wanting to be lost again...

Wait .. Age still remains just a number!

There was a time when a 10 rs note made me happy and a piece of dairy milk chocolate mattered a lot. Used to wait endlessly for the consumer exhibition and be thrilled to play all games. Shopping for groceries with dad ensured some commission to me and a visit to grandparents meant its time to take a gift. Going to a theatre for a movie worth 40 rs was mind blowing. The maggi after a day at school was tempting and missing dinner after the maggi session was dream come true.

There is a time now when I'm not aware how much money lies in my wallet and mostly there is some cash lying at different places in the house, I have generally stopped liking chocolates and going to a consumer exhibition is a far cry. Grocery shopping is just a compulsion, attending any function is just an obligation. A movie at a theatre is not less than 1k for 2 people, Maggi is when am completely tired and cant cook anything.


Life keeps changing. Experiences teaches lots. People matter the most and Money never excites me more. Waiting to see what all is in store!!
But I have my own fun and carry my own responsibilities and I'm just happy to grow with age..

Wait .. Age still remains just a number!

Shades of Life!!

We always think that our life is in complete control of ourself, but only as time flies we realize nothing is in our control. All we can do is just let ourslef free to feel the experiences of life be it good or bad. All we can do is to be happy today and forever whatever the situations are.

I have seen different shades in my life. I used to madly love this guy and I knew very well that he too loved me. He could bring a smile on my face at any bad situations. Even while going through hell life was heavenly because of him. ALways felt sad to leave him and go home. But I was happy .. happy to a great extent. Now I'm married to the same guy, am super happy and the thought that I dont have to leave him behind every evening and go .. I feel blissful.. And this is after 3 yrs of marriage.

There has been a time when I always thought I just wanted to stay with my husband and no one else. But when I married I had my BIL with me. I was super happy and the experiences with him very just amazing. He became my best friend and I could just be myself with him and the same with him. My conception of being just with husband vanished then. Now he is away .. far away from me.. but am happy for him and happy without him too. I miss him lots and feel I wish he stayed with us and the changes in life dint happen.But thats life.. We move on.

Now I have one more BIL of mine who keeps visiting us and who makes me feel very happy. He is my Buddy.. My lil boy who cares for me and I care for him.. One day he too will move on but We will still be happy to have spent soemtime so closely and will cherish it all our lives.
I have extended family members who I have never met or met them just once, but I love talking to them and I feel good about them and we know quite lots about each other. Thanks for the social networking abilities.

I always had on my mind, I can never be happy being away from my mum. Now I speak to her daily and she calls me home and I say Ma I have lot of housechores to finish and I cant come this week, but you know what.. am happy, happy that my mum loves me and cares for me much more than anyone. I do miss her but I'm happy in my own little world of responsibilities.

There have been many friends whom I would meet daily and they are friends for life. But now they are far away, though we talk daily we meet only rarely. AT first I thought I cant live without them, now am still happy coz I know I love them and they love me.

There have been office colleagues, they are my friends and I have cried when they went away changing jobs or for some personal reason. I have had some best times with them and they are still in touch. I love them.. I still have few friends at work I know that one day they will move away but all I know is They are there somewhere and I will continue to stay in touch with the ones who I like..

There has been times when I just wanted to get rid of few people from life and always felt bad that they are around, but when they moved away I have felt thrilled and happy and sometime later I have become neutral to the situation which simply means they dint make me happy or sad. Their existense doesnt matter to me at all. Be it the so called friends, colleagues or relatives.

The bottom line in all these events of my life which keep changing constantly is, though the situations looked very scary and tough, I easily tend to move on and I'm always happy.. Except the few special ones other people and things hardly make any impact in my life. Its not an easy task to be happy always but for me it is. I thank my parents for giving me this awesome make. I'm born to be happy and I will be happy always!

A dull day!

A day when am in a pensive mood, not in a condition to interact lots. Wanna just lock up myself in a room and think and think about my wants and desires or Just go to sleep endlessly. All rubbish thoughts pass by when am down.
No one can bring me back to my normal self except time. I just let it be and i'm back to normal. Its tough for a happy gal to be in a low mood for long and hence I swing back to my normal self and be Happy.
Today is one such day where am a lil low and wanna just be alone and waiting to get back to my normal happy self quickly.

Idle!

An idle Man's Mind is a devil's workshop.. How well said.. I have an extension to this considering the current gen Women being given equal opportunities and acceptance in society.

"An idle Man's Mind is a devil's workshop, and an Idle woman is a devil in herself"! I dont care if you believe in it or not but this is what I feel from my interactions with different kind of people.

Women are generally lost in useless discussions when they are jobless, Watch unwanted soap operas, talk rubbish and crib lots and complain about their male counterparts that they do not afford to spend enough time for them. The point being they have all the time in the world for fun. Being jobless outside house doesn't mean you should be idle at home. Learn to inculcate few good habits, create hobbies and
study more. It becomes very tough for people around to have any quality discussion with such women.
Men can sit idle thinking about nothing, but a woman's mind never stops working. They keep thinking and thinking useless things and hence the more they get involved in things and be engaged the better it is for them.

I see housewives who are my friends and I know how very well they utilize their times. At the same time I have known few other women, who dont work outside, who cant find lots of work at home and become boring and talk useless stuff.

My humble suggestions to the guys being, learn to keep your wive/mother/girl friend/sister engaged in quality things. May be they will hate you for a while for being forced into things, but soon they too will realize their worth!

Bang Bang Bangalore!!!

I live in Bangalore and it simply means I get to meet lot of new people in the city  who flock from different parts of the country.
Its a nice cosmo culture unlike how it was 10 yrs back. Bangalore has been known for good education, weather, medical field, greenery,Research, art and science, Music and many more fields for ages now. The only recent tagging for this city is the IT boom. Its called the silicon valley, Pub Capital of the country , Garden city and once a Pensioner's paradise.

Its good to see a place grow and become world reckoned for all good reasons. This is one such lovely place where anyone would love to happily and easily settle down.
The people are quite accomodative and that speaks in itself about the place. If anyone from any part of the country can come and feel at home and settle down without much hassles then it speaks a lot in itself about the place.

I have lived in Bangalore since my birth and I have been witnessing the changes since then. Though the recent changes seems to be too much to handle for the city. Heavy traffic due to unforseen growth has taken a toll on the city. The floating population has increased tremendously. But it all of our duty to make a better place to live in. Being such an amazing home to lakhs of people, All you hear people around coomenting is.. Bangalore has bad roads.. Bangalore has bad traffic.. Bangalore has bad service.. Bangalore has bad autowalas.. Bangalore this.. Bangalore that..

The so called educated lot complain about a place so much that it becomes intolerable at times.
When you have any problem either try to solve it, change the system, adjust to the system or at the max SHUT UP! People who keep complaining and cribbing do nothing at all.. literally nothing. They come from whichever nook and corner of the country, from small towns to villages or from a better place than Bangalore. But isn't it our duty to give life to the place we live in? Do we show any gratitude for what the place offers to us?

I have seen all the metros and nice cities of India and always been quite sure that Bangalore is definitely a lovely place incomparable to other cities.
People complain about every damn thing right from autowalas to sabzi walas to the quality of corainder leaves to driving sense of people. Trust me the Bangalore autowalas and maids are much sophisticated and well behaved than most so called educated lot. Complaints against Autorickshaw is 1023 compared to the 2345 similar complaints in Mumbai. They talk many languages than the cribbing lot do and behave much classier at times. They help people who need any guidance on road. Its We who involve the low earning people into habits of extracting more money and later complain about the same. And the low earning jobs in the city now is done by people mostly from other states. The place gives a chance for everyone to survive by doing a cook's job or a maid, A pani puri stall, a construction worker or a Panwala.
Can we appreciate it?

The bottomline being, We are here only because we want a good place to stay, a good job or a good education. Does it matter to people at all if the place is doing good or bad or worse. Do we bother to put any effort to make it better?? Time to think Educated guys!

And if you expect Bangalore to be an amazing Metro or you want it to be Newyork, Each of us have to work for it and towards its betterment and bloody not sit and complain. Any place for that matter can be better only because of its people. Mumbai being such an amazing place gives its entire credit to the people .
Bangalore is a beautiful place still and it lets people be what they are and who they are. This is the greatest credit to the place because I dont see any other so called metro being so accomodative to diverse people (except Mumbai). They try to mend you into their local culture and behaviour. Bangalore is a place where people live for 10+ yrs and dont need to bother learning local language or be a part of any local culture. I have not been biased because I belong to this place. Anywhere we live we can belong to that place if only we show some love and concern to the place and put efforts to make it all ours

Finally, facts being facts, Bangalore is much better in ways of being a big city, beautiful city, green city, Lovely
weather, accomodative people and trust me less on cheating compared to so many other cities of the country!

Only the ones who crib and complain less, can appreciate anything around them! Time to grow up and add some value to the society we live in!

Lies and marriage!

I'm sure all of us have read this saying in Kannada or in Hindi .. which means, "Say a 1000 lie to Get one marriage done!"

I have often heard this Idiom but only now this makes me wonder why the hell someone should lie so much to get 
married??? and that too 1000??? gawd.. isnt it completely unfair for the one who dreams of big things about his/her marriage and later is shattered because of these 1000 lies?? Why cant people just call a spade a spade.

Why do some people fake their profile, their job, their height, weight, colour, age, their plans about life and their family background?

Am just trying to understand why this was coined at the first place.. 

PS: No wrong assumptions please. Only quality opinions appreciated :P:P

FB Life!

Some people who you knew for yrs and who never smiled at you or were nice to you when u were together in school, college or office, all of a sudden want to be in your life. They send you friend requests, get on your lists, try to know what life you are leading, like your happy comments and the sad ones too. Judge you for what you are on FB, derive their own meanings,take things personally whcih you dont even mean, tag you with a new identity of their own, complain that you dont interact only with them, and so on and so forth.
But still the entire world is on it, coz of the special few.

Thats FB and thats LIFE in general!

Love and V day!

To love is nice but to be loved by the one you love is pure Luck.Not everyone is lucky to get love.
And when u love,everyday is a celebration.

Interviews are like arrange marriages

They meet some one after seeing their profile, seeing only positives in it (like in horoscope), ask you lot of questions, try to gauge u from ur background and experience. How profitable you can be to each other and finally with all assumptions in one meet, you end up saying YES or NO. And once the person in IN you either feel great or terrible!

What a gamble I say!

Passing thoughts

Ignore the pests and go with the rest

Marriage is like a wine which gets better with time or even rots with time

Never blame others for the fuck ups in your life, because No One can ruin your life without your consent

The pursuit of my Happyness!

There are days when you are sad for no reason and there are days when you are happy for no reason, today is a day where am sad for no reason but i'm finding hundreds of reason to be happy and forcing myself into it and trying to be happy.  Just the thought of my family and their love for me makes me happy. The thought of my lil nieces' and the tight hug they give me everytime I meet them is making me happy. Just a glance of my My lovely husband's photo is making me happy.
Bottom line is I'm never meant to be sad.
I know that my Life rocks and I'm Happy :)

Thought for the day

When life becomes just a compromise, it means you have stopped living. U just EXIST!

New year is here

To be happy and to show that you are happy, You need not prove to the world by partying hard or splurging lots, laughing always, or even welcoming the new yr with a bash.This is just a part of life.
You can be happy all by yourslef by just realising how contended you are with your beautiful life, with this year which just passed by, with the happiness you have given to your loved ones, with the gratitude you show to your mum-dad for giving you this life.

Here i'm at home all alone, sitting in the balcony of a high rasied building and just recollecting all the happy moments and the sad ones, and cherishing every single moment of the past yr, flipping through the photos, Laughing at my mistakes and smiling at the maturity and strength Ive shown when needed. Feeling a lil older at age and a lot more younger at heart.

Just feeling blissfull about the love and the life I have. Thanks to all those who made me happy and sad coz end of the year am just feeling great.

Happy new year to all and hope to have a great 2012 just as amazing as my 2011.